This seems like such a simple issue, one that doesn’t take much thought. I believe it’s much larger than that. It’s intense and overwhelming and difficult and time consuming.
In the last year I have felt that I am sure of who I am, what kind of person I want to be. Going through a large change recently has kind of flipped this idea upside down and left me wondering and thinking about who I am. I am starting to understand and recognise myself. In a way I am confident and feel relaxed in myself and my personality. I haven’t always let my ‘full-self’ out in social situations, and in the past I have tried to force myself into coming out of my shell, which in fact have proved to be the entirely wrong way of doing so. But hey, we can only learn from our mistakes!
I’m now at peace.. when I am sad, happy, relaxed, uncomfortable, excited, etc. I have learned to accept all of myself, in all of the emotions (I am a very emotional person!). Although I say that, I am aware it is a journey and I can never fully reach that ‘enlightenment’ within myself. But all that said, I know myself. I am happy with how I act towards people, I (for the most part) don’t care what people’s opinions of me are, because I know me….I know I wouldn’t ever deliberately hurt anyone or cause harm or be unjust. I am my own worst critic, and that’s ok, because it’s how I grow as a person.
WHERE IS THIS GOING! Finding it so hard to express these thoughts in words as it’s not a physical thing that you can put a title on, like anger or sadness or happiness. It’s something that isn’t really tangible. So I’m trying my best!
To try to sum it all up, you are who you are. You don’t need your personality or feelings to be validated by anyone else. At the end of the day, you are with yourself for the rest of your life, so, in my opinion, it’s better to spend time getting to know yourself before you can understand anyone else. Be your own best friend. Enjoy spending time with yourself. Accept who you are. Although I am only at the start of this journey, it has already changed my perspective of not only myself, but the people around me. When you start to sort out your internal problems the external ones start to become easier to handle. We have a lifetime to figure this out, but taking the first step is a crucial part of the process.